Served with Divorce Papers? 10 Urgent Steps You Must Take

Being served with divorce papers can be a life-altering moment—whether you saw it coming or it caught you completely off guard. The shock, stress, and uncertainty can make it difficult to think clearly, but your immediate actions can greatly affect the outcome of your case.

If you’ve been served with divorce papers, here are 10 urgent steps you must take right away to protect your rights, finances, and future.

1. Stay Calm and Read the Papers Thoroughly

Your first instinct might be to panic or call your spouse, but pause and take a deep breath. Carefully read every page of the divorce papers. Look for key details such as:

• Deadlines for your response

   

   

• Claims your spouse is making (property division, child custody, support)

   

   

• Court hearing dates
  

   

   

Understanding what’s in the documents will help you make informed next moves.

2. Note Your Response Deadline

In Colorado, for example, you typically have 21 days (or 35 days if you live out of state) to file a written response with the court. Missing this deadline can result in a default judgment, meaning the court could grant your spouse everything they’re requesting.

3. Contact a Divorce Attorney Immediately

Even if you’re considering handling the divorce yourself, having legal guidance from the start is crucial. An experienced divorce lawyer can:

• Explain your legal rights

   

   

• Help you understand the paperwork

   

   

• Ensure your response is filed correctly and on time

   

   

• Protect your financial and parental interests

   

   

4. Gather All Financial Records

Divorce often involves complex financial matters. Start collecting:

• Bank statements

   

   

• Pay stubs

   

   

• Tax returns

   

   

• Investment and retirement account information

   

   

• Property deeds and mortgage statements

   

   

• Credit card and loan documents

   

   

Organizing this now will save you time and strengthen your case.

5. Avoid Confrontation with Your Spouse

It’s natural to want to argue, explain, or defend yourself—but direct confrontation can escalate conflict or be used against you in court. Communicate in writing or through your attorney whenever possible, and avoid posting about the divorce on social media.

6. Protect Your Assets

Check joint accounts and property titles. While you must follow legal rules about asset division, you can take reasonable steps to safeguard your financial interests, such as:

• Monitoring account activity

   

   

• Changing passwords on personal accounts

   

   

• Reviewing automatic payments and withdrawals

   

   

7. Think About Temporary Orders

Divorce proceedings can take months or even years. If you need immediate decisions about child custody, spousal support, or use of the marital home, your attorney can help you request temporary orders from the court.

8. Make a Plan for Your Children

If you have children, focus on their well-being first. Avoid putting them in the middle of disputes. Courts favor parents who prioritize their children’s needs and show a willingness to cooperate on custody arrangements.

9. Create a Support Network

Divorce is emotionally draining. Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or a counselor who can help you stay grounded. Emotional stability can help you make better legal and financial decisions.

10. Respond to the Divorce Papers

Work with your attorney to prepare and file your formal written response. This document should clearly address each claim in your spouse’s filing and include any counterclaims you wish to make.

Final Thoughts

Being served with divorce papers is stressful, but how you respond in the first days can shape your future for years to come. Taking immediate, informed action will protect your rights and give you the best chance for a favorable outcome.

At Thomas & Associates, we understand that every divorce is unique and emotionally challenging. Our experienced family law attorneys provide the compassionate guidance and aggressive advocacy you need from day one. Whether you’re facing disputes over custody, property division, or support, we’re here to protect your interests and help you move forward with confidence.

Contact Thomas & Associates today for a confidential consultation and take the first step toward securing your future.